Month: March 2020

Is My Partner Mature?

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Maturity in a relationship is a very important aspect for couples; something which is built throughout the process that has an affective relationship. In addition, the maturity of the couple is related or related to the psycho-affective maturity of each member of the same.

Psycho-affective maturity is based on the level of resolution of its own conflicts, which each person has and how he resolves them. This will guide a level of affective maturity that has an impact on the relationship of mate.

In addition, the couple itself will go through a series of maturity levels that is unique for each couple as it will depend on the individual characteristics of each person and the specificity of each couple.

However, beyond specificities, we can list some important aspects to determine the degree of maturity in a relationship:

  1. Respect for each other in every sense is one of the most important aspects.
  2. Healthy and open communication is another relevant aspect.
  3. The ability to transform your reality based on successful completion of projects together.
  4. Being able to feel love for each other over time.
  5. The ability to form a family group that is the subject of its reality and the one that surrounds it with an active position before it.
  6. The ability to maintain individual personal spaces for each member of the couple.
  7. Resolve the conflicts that arise and process them as a positive input to the experience of being a couple.
  8. Reciprocal sincerity.
  9. In depth knowledge, about your partner and of yourself.
  10. The support and support capacity that the couple can be for both of us.
  11. The expiration of prejudices and the capacity for freedom offered by the couple for both members.

In short, these can be very important aspects to take into account when establishing a mature and healthy relationship with your partner. Do you recognize some of them in your behavior and attitudes.

Communication is the Cornerstone of a Relationship

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Communicating with your partner is what makes a foundation for the happy relationship most couples strive for. This is, often overlooked however when people assess aspects of their relationship that they feel need attention.

Many couples end their relationships because they can't find an understanding. This lack of communication leads to fights, anger and resentment which in most average relationships can be resolved through an open dialog. You can prevent communication problems in your relationships by practicing some of the following tips. If you can apply some of these ideas you will be given the chance to avoid communication problems with your partner. It's amazing how small things can help, to be attentive and listen, or notice something good in the other person, all of which can improve your relationship.

Relationships in general can be difficult.

Communication is very cornerstone in the relationship; but it cannot betaken lightly, if so, without realizing its importance which lies in the fact that it helps us to grow we will neglect a central element that all successful couples share.

Many couples end their relationships because they can't find an understanding with their partner. This lack of communication then leads to those common three problems many list in therapy: fights, anger and resentment. Problems due to lack of communication are the result of:

  • A lot of talk, but not a lot of listening;
  • Use of indirect communication that does not make a clear point;
  • Showing a defensive attitude like being aggressive;
  • Dishonesty.

You can prevent communication problems in your relationships by practicing some of the following tips:

  1. When you meet with your partner, listen to what he or she has to say, think before you respond.
  2. Get to the point. There's no need to hide anything. Be open and clear so that misunderstood do not happen.
  3. Be honest and don't lie. The lie only leads to a lack of trust, doubt and resentment inside relationships.
  4. Try to be assertive. You need to understand the other person, but you must also express your feelings and ideas clearly. A relationship consists of two people so there must be two voices with a reasonable outcome.
  5. To improve communication in your relationship there must be openness on both sides. You can do this by sharing your experiences, the good and the bad. This will help both people relate on each other.
  6. When a discussion arises, avoid comments that will harm the other person. This includes generalizations and contempt. If you don't do this, you'll later feel sorry for what you said. It is also important that both exalt self-confidence and self-esteem.
  7. Find something good despite the negative. Let your partner have their own space by avoiding being a controller and insisting that they are always right.

If you can apply some of these ideas you may be able to avoid communication problems with your partner. It's amazing how small things we can do improve listening make a big difference when it comes to noticing something good in the other person.

Love is the Key To Happiness

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Love is absolute, it is equal towards all and all things, love is different from infatuation. Because love can be directed towards all people and things, instead infatuation is towards a person especially to whom we have chosen to share some form of intimacy, though limited in how much else we share, for example our fears, hopes, and dreams. Love does not seek personal convenience or favors above others. Love requires knowing the other person's flaws, seeing the good but also the bad of the relationship and working together to build it into something long lasting and healthy. And in the instance of infatuation that transforms; this is when we start to see the person for who they are with all of their flaws and the idealization disappear, and we can look more critically and move beyond the facade that people erect to protect their inner-selves. You do not usually see the flaws when we idealize because that is the very definition of idealization. The person and looks perfect, and looks perfect no matter what they show us to counter that impression, only after a period of time can this become true love.

And that is what I wanted to talk about today. Love. Marriage. In general the development which takes place after we have walked down the aisle. For one, weddings are that point in the road where our paths unite and we take that new course.

So what is love? What is it really?

When we are asked to categorize it, the majority say that it is a cornerstone in the process of building a future with another person. People don't fall in love everyday. We do not use it to describe our feelings about something. It is even present in most friendships. Unless it is professional, few choose to maintain contact with someone if there isn't some sense of mutual love, no matter the size present. In most cases this love will not be vocalized.

So what is love, truly? At its heart, it is a willingness to open up and contact with another person on a deeper and long lasting level.

This is what marriage is.

Some compared the feeling to euphoria. Though some choose to liken it to madness as it also creates a state of stagnation or forgetfulness of everything around you, where you can lose the notion of time, you do not see, you do not hear or feel it, you only think about it, but being in love is one of the best things that can happen in this life. And those who have fallen in love have also learned what happiness really is. This is leads to the desire to spend a lifetime together.

There are more than enough sources that explore the institution of marriage. An industry has grown around it so that none of our heart's desires are left wanting. A wedding today is only limited by our imagination, the subsequent implementation a matter of finding the pieces we need. We are almost bombarded by options at hand; Themes, decorations, menus, and everything else are ready for us. You can find the right look no matter what you need. Which presents a nearly an unimaginable assortment of paper products; ranging from the first step, save the date down to invitations, menus, and thank yous. The piecemeal nature of wedding planning is long gone. The act of marriage is streamlined. You just need to know what you want.

In the off chance than instagram and pinterest are not enough to inspire us we can organize a wedding planner and things become even easier.

And while they may ease the planning of our wedding, the real work is done by love. And in its absence there is little that can be done to make the resulting marriage work.

But then love has many definitions.

Love is something that has many definition but one root feeling because it is the greatest thing that can happen to a human being; love is the answer to many questions held in our hearts, questions that every human being should find an answer to in their lives. If you were to describe happiness how would you do it? Love is a difficult thing to explain, difficult to find, difficult to live, but when true love is found, you can come to the conviction of knowing that this world has been reached.

This is the ability to be happy, and to make others happy. Love is not spiteful, there is no hatred in it, it does not become enlivened, it is not momentary or ephemeral, love knows how to forgive, love does not rejoice in injustice… Love is not boastful, it does not boast of itself. Love all believes love all endures it. True love doesn't hate. … to love you have to be brave, because to love, you must stop hating. You must be honest with yourself and willing to expose yourself, and that can be frightening, but is happiness not worth that?

Friendship In A Digital Age

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This internet allows us to make connections from around the world, it gives us the opportunity to have communication with many people from different walks of life, even if they are thousands of miles away. The only options for such contact just a few decades ago were via mail (slow) and long distance telephone calls (expensive).

Today I can met people, characters (yes, you read that correctly) "characters" because they play a role, I don't know them personally, or if they really are who they say they are. At best, they show a part of their personality in which they hope shows the best part of their character without realizing it, well, that is now always true, but that's another story that I hope to tell you later.

Their is some truth to the argument that they are doing the same in their personal life, but that is a subject for another day as well.

I met a special person last year, from the first day we spoke it was as if we knew each other all our lives, it was as if we just stopped talking for a while and our reunion was wonderful. In other words we connected really well. Needless to say we got carried away by everything and had some very happy moments together thanks to this wonderful thing that we call technology.

When we say love we often reserve it for romantic relationships but it is more than that. To love some one does not mean you desire physical intimacy. We felt so much love since that first meeting which came from our hearts. Still, long heartfelt conversations sometimes need to be punctuated with a hug. So we meet. We gave eachother that longed-for embrace and felt each others warmth, I will never forget that. At this point it is important to note that we really don't live that far from one another. A couples of hours drive. The distance was not immense, but that is relative, thanks to the internet we were able to connect, something that would have been impossible otherwise.

The internet brings people together.